A specialist’s advice to quickly identify “red flags”

“Red Flag” these are warning signs that indicate potential toxicity in a relationship. Some, such as excessive jealousy or humiliation, are known. But other people are more subtle and yet dangerous. Anne Latuil, interviewed by a doctor in psychotramatology Ellie Warns against these behaviors and take the keys to spot them before taking the root.

One of the most combined trap is the love bombing. It is the beginning of a relationship marked by meditation, compliments and sometimes excess of gifts. Everything seems right … until the day everything suddenly stops. The person, trapped, then wants to find strict to find this initial affection, even if it means to accept toxic behavior.

Gaslighting: When reality is manipulated

Another insidious threat: gaslighting. The purpose of this technique is to doubt other doubts on their memory and their perception of facts. A poisonous partner can deny events, pretend to do some things, or even accuse his spouse of being mad. Finally, the victim questioned his own decision and separated themselves, assuring that they were fully responsible for the discomfort in the relationship.

Manipulators can also try to keep their partner away from their relatives, stating that the latter do not want him well. This isolation strategy makes the individual even more weak, without being aware of the toxicity of the relationship without external benchmark.

Be cautious from the beginning … and in the whole relationship

Recognizing these warning signals from the first weeks can avoid many suffering. If a relationship looks like a real “red flag” region, it is better to cut less before becoming disastrous. But vigilance should not stop there: some toxic behavior appears slowly, sometimes after several months of relationship.

If doubt, a good exercise is surprising: If a friend describes the situation himself, what would I advise him? This simple change of perspective can help the situation back back and act before it becomes uncontrollable.