Do you have “weird” fantasies? What it says about your personality
Having fantasies is a universal experience, but when these scenarios fall outside of social norms or reflect unexpected desires, they can be destabilizing. Fantasies, whether realistic or totally imaginary, nourish our excitement and contribute to fulfilled sexuality.
However, when a fantasy seems “out of the norm”, it is common to associate a certain guilt with it. What is perceived as “weird” is often influenced by our beliefs, our upbringing or society. But what is it really?
Reflection of our imagination
A “bizarre” fantasy is nothing more than a reflection of our imagination. These scenarios are rooted in our personal history, our cultural environment or even our personality. They can feature fictional characters, transgressive situations or unexpected desires.
What makes them disturbing is their unconscious and uncontrollable nature. They appear without warning and sometimes challenge our values or our morals. However, there is nothing abnormal about them. On the contrary, as sexologist Morgane Beauvais points out when interviewed by Ellethey are a space of mental freedom where everything is permitted.
Buried needs or desires?
These fantasies can reveal buried needs or desires. For example, a fantasy of domination might reflect a desire to let go, while a fantasy of multiple relationships might reflect a need for attention. However, it is not always necessary to try to analyze them.
Sometimes, you just have to accept them for what they are: an imaginary construction serving our pleasure. They do not define our real choices or our actions, but enrich our erotic universe.
Getting rid of negative judgments
To learn to accept these thoughts, it is important to get rid of the negative judgments that we may associate with them. Questioning the source of our shame can help us better understand our blockages. Is it due to strict upbringing or preconceived ideas about sexuality?
Recognizing that our fantasies are not a threat to our identity is a step towards freer sexuality. If you wish, you can choose to share them with a consenting partner, which can even strengthen the bond in your relationship.