Do you know the methods of 4C closely when you develop in a different way as a couple
Romantic relationships are not frozen. They cross the change stages where everyone develops individually. According to psychologist Rachel Glick, in an article published by Psychology todayMany couples encounter themselves with a challenge: how to stay connected when aspirations, values or preferences change?
4C method – consciousness, communication, commitment and connection – provides concrete solutions to maintain complexity in these transition periods and preserve harmony.
1. Consciousness: Accept and understand change
It is not necessary to develop separately. Accepting this reality avoids resistance and misunderstanding. The idea is to retreat and inspect these changes without nervousness. Instead of considering them as a risk, it is necessary to adopt the currency of curiosity and reflection.
Solid relationships are those that adapt. By applying a positive attitude to change, each partner can detect his own development while being open to another.
2. Communication: Open dialogue without fear
When you think you change, your partner is attractive to keep your feelings for fear of worrying. However, honest communication is the key to a permanent relationship. By choosing a favorable moment to express your feelings, you can make a place of trust. Express your doubts, your desires and listen to your partner without decision, confirm the connection.
A simple tool for this is to be active listening. Instead of preparing your answer, it is a question of welcoming other words, to show your understanding and to improve to avoid any defensive attitude.
3. Commitment: Priority to the relationship despite differences
Even when life path deviations, investment in the couple remains an important factor in their longevity. This includes solid actions that show that love and mutual interest are always present. Regularly expresses its affection, compromising and maintaining general rituals, such as a weekly dinner or a shared activity, it makes it possible to consolidate the link.
Commitment does not mean sharing everything. Rather, it is a question of finding a balance between freedom and attachment, where each partner feels free to develop without fear of losing the other.
4. Connection: Do farming whether the difference brings together
Instead of focusing on differences, it is necessary to strengthen the normal points. It is possible to identify shared centers of interest and maintain natural complexity by creating new memories together.
Participate in general projects, whether it is small (search for a new chain, cook together) or large (travel, attached in one reason), helps to preserve the sense of unity. The objective is to see the couple as a adventure task in continuous development, where each change has the opportunity to re -discover rather than the risk of breakdown.