Do you lack self-confidence? You probably experienced these 7 stages in your childhood
Lacking self-confidence is often a consequence of our life journey. From childhood, certain situations can have a lasting impact on our perception of ourselves, influencing our ability to act, to assert ourselves or to trust our skills.
The hypnotherapist Laurence Delinot interviewed by the Women’s Journal explains that these experiences, although sometimes seemingly harmless, can leave deep imprints. Let’s dive back into the seven situations that, according to experts, weaken self-confidence from a very young age.
1. A fragile attachment bond from early childhood
When a child does not feel supported or secure by their attachment figure, often a parent, this can create latent insecurity.
A lack of response to the child’s needs generates subtle anxiety which, over time, can erode self-confidence.
2. Growing up with anxious parents
Children naturally absorb their parents’ emotions.
Constantly anxious parents transmit, despite themselves, a worried vision of the world to their child, who ends up feeling constant pressure and develops unfounded fears.
3. Suffering humiliating remarks at school
A teacher who criticizes or humiliates a student in public can cause lasting harm.
This testing in front of others can generate shame and fuel a feeling of inferiority that persists into adulthood.
4. Exclusion and peer rejection
Children excluded or marginalized by their classmates may grow up feeling like they never measure up.
This social rejection undermines their self-esteem and pushes them to doubt their own value.
5. Family conflicts with brothers and sisters
Being the victim of teasing or harassment by a brother or sister can profoundly alter one’s self-image.
These negative interactions reinforce an idea of vulnerability and weakness in front of others.
6. Experiencing toxic relationships as a teenager
Difficult first love experiences, marked by an imbalance in the relationship or by manipulation, often leave their mark.
They anchor fears and a lack of confidence in future relationships.
7. Face painful romantic breakups
Romantic breakups can also reinforce feelings of worthlessness.
A broken heart at an age when one is still searching for one’s own identity can easily plunge into deep doubts about one’s own worth.