How to recognize the signs of sledging, this toxic behavior more common at the end of the year?
Year-end celebrations, which are often synonymous with warm moments as a couple, can also reveal unexpected behavior. Among them, “sledging”, the practice of delayed termination, attracts attention.
This phenomenon, where one partner stays in the relationship to spend the holidays before breaking up, causes just as much anxiety and confusion. But how to recognize the signs and, above all, how to avoid becoming their victim?
Sledding: a carefully planned hoax
The term “sledding” emerged after a study conducted by New York PostThe survey revealed that 15% of young people (18–25 years old) admitted to being in a relationship during the winter, while planning to break up after the holidays. Why such behaviour?
The reasons vary: enjoying the affection of winter, escaping loneliness, or simply having a companion for the festivities. This behavior, often intentional, is described by experts as a form of emotional manipulation, which has an emotional impact on the deceived person.
Motivations behind this behavior
There are many reasons why some people maintain a relationship despite their actual disinterest. Among them: physical comfort (embrace and emotional closeness), avoiding questions about being alone during family celebrations or even the desire to enjoy aspects of the celebration as a couple.
This behavior, although strategic for the person practicing it, can be devastating for the other, especially when faced with a sudden and unexpected breakup after the holidays.
Recognize the symptoms of sledding
How do you know if you are a victim of stalking? According to Claire Rainier, interviewed by Dating Expert Huffington PostSome clues are obvious: Does your partner only talk about short-term projects like Christmas or New Years without discussing the future beyond these dates?
Is he less emotionally invested or is he more focused on intimate moments? Open communication is essential to clarify intentions and avoid ambiguity.
Protecting your emotional balance in a sledding situation
If you have any doubts about your partner’s intentions, don’t hesitate to ask frank questions. Addressing the future of the relationship directly often causes you potential discomfort.
For those considering a breakup, experts recommend not waiting until the holidays are over: It’s better to act honestly to avoid causing unnecessary hurt.