“It has been going on for twenty years”: Two friends share the necessary key for a healthy and durable friendship
While Love lasts for three years, according to the proverb of Fradic Beigbedr, towards friendship, it seems capable of over twenty years over twenty years. Even if we can reduce this type of relationship several times to share with two or more, friendship is more complex than that.
As Boris CharpentierPsychologists and coaches, friendship, have a sense of mutual affection between two people, whose relationship is based on general values: “Like family relationships, friendly relations are not determined by social roles that make it a unique place of authentic expression.” Okay, but solidly, how is an honest, healthy and permanent favorable relationship formed?
General Price: Basis of friendship
To answer this question, two long time friends have been asked to reveal their perception of friendship. Elix and Manahe, this is a story that lives from college. Very quickly, they created unbreakable links. In the morning of their thirty decade, two young women, with different lives, are still united and have managed to have a healthy and permanent relationship.
It is clear that through the answer to our questions, both friends are at the same wavelength. coincidence? not necessarily. “Friendship is a permanent relationship with a family that we choose, without any decision that has been created for years”Assurances ALIX. For refusal, this is the perception “A link where we support in good and bad times without decisions. It is a different form of love to some extent, but simply as strong and honest. This is a pillar of life where we grow and we thrive together.
Required key for an honest friendship
With their friendship born in the playground, both women revealed their final key to make an honest and authentic relationship: “You need listening, sharing, communication and commitment”Emphasizes Elix. She specifies: “This is like any other relationship, it requires investment and love without waiting for nothing in return, except share with others.”
Share, to communicate, with honesty, he is there, the key to friendship according to Manahe: “You have to be true with you and others. It is also very important to show philanthropy and to be interested in your friends’ lives. In addition, Boris Charpentier reminds us: “Being yourself more honest, confirms the belief that is the basis of any friendly relationship (…), moreover, communicating in a philanthropic manner and other actively promoting mutual understanding.”
Friendship, a family that we choose
However, life does not always facilitates the creation of permanent favorable relationships. For example, the geographical distance, sometimes to interfere with friendship, leaves to set some links. As a psychologist reminds us, a friendly relationship requires commitment: “It is an investment in terms of time and by sharing especially moments together or giving yourself regular news.”
Proof: Despite the geographical distance between two friends, it does not affect their relationship: “We always try to stay in touch, even if the distance makes it a little more complicated. But as soon as we find ourselves, this is an opportunity to share everything: our life, our projects, our experiences and above, we laugh a lot together ”Specifies Manahe. “We continue to exchange through social networks when we are far away, by giving news and sending ourselves to the video through voice messages”Elix says.
For a healthy and permanent friendship, so we should have authenticity and seek relationships “Hopefully nutrition” Reminds us, while Alix insists and says: “Friends are the family we choose ”We will almost be tears in the eyes …