These questions allow you to break ice during the first appointment, according to an expert.

Never started talking about rain and good weather, transport problems and other restrictions to avoid a moment of embarrassment in the lift? If it is possible to rent a conversation through “small talk” in France, it is not so everywhere. Thus, fines, for example, prefer silence for this type of superficial interaction.

Without going to this peak, it is possible to enrich your discussions to turn them into real conversations. And this is the first time you have faced someone. In addition, if the right of the babysitter can lose your means to another, you can share yourself with some equipment to break the ice. In the art of conversation, writer and expert Fanny Agar shares you something.

The art of meeting another really

The “word” meeting “comes from Old French” which “expresses the fact of killing someone”, so he refers to a shock with another: Two creatures come in contact, come against him, and see their revised trajectory, “philosopher Charles Pepin,” Meeting in his book, a philosophy, a philosophy, a philosophy.

To meet someone, you still have to really be able to stay there, anchor in the present time. As the author of the book “Trus of F know” explains, “Even before asking minor questions, the above is equally important”. For him, it is necessary to feel yourself well, so that it is as natural as possible and is open to the meeting, and therefore for a real interaction. For him, do not hesitate to take a big breath to calm stress and be able to start exchange with as easy as possible.

Truth, nothing but truth

“Some people think that it is necessary to please at all costs, even though it means moving on things, I believe that the contrast will only cruel after some meetings,” the expert says. Rather, she recommends betting on authenticity, even if it means recognizing her faults, but also her qualities.

“It can soften the other and show that we know each other well”. To appear beyond or appear beyond any prohibition, it can also be interesting that to take interest in another with a question, with a question, which can be legally asked: how does it feel to feel unlike the person and how can I make it comfortable? Often, “This is the most natural that we are going, with mirror effects, allow the other to relax”.

These questions to break ice

To start, we automatically disappear the classic: “What are you doing in life?” The beaten to go out slightly from the track. And because, otherwise, we will inadvertently put the person in the first box, without knowing him.

We can choose the option of the following questions, as advised by the expert, by step by step:

• What is running you now?
  “The question becomes easily positive, and an exciting conversation can be”. Then it is easy to bounce back.
• What do you like to do to relax?
  “The interest of this question is that it can easily project us through the reality of the person”. Which can give us an idea about their daily life and what can be seen by our evening or weekend. “If the person tells me that they wake up at 12 noon in the weekend, order a McDonalds and go to the movies or they get up at 7 am, to go to the market, then go to the game, it already gives me a glimpse of whether it will match with my energy and my wishes.”
• What do you want to change now? Or to establish in your life?
  “As we meet on a point M, it is interesting to know a little more about the state of the person at the time of meeting, and IT projects”. Answers can be very diverse, from “I want to mount my box from” I want to mount my box “.
• If I met you 10 years ago … how were you? And what have you learned?
  “We enter the gradation, it’s a little darker, and we can give real beautiful answers with this question”. For example, the person can tell us “I was super ambitious, I wanted to win millions, and then I lost a member of my family, and it made me again, and today …”. Finally, “We partially reach the philosophy of a person of life”.
• Where did you grow up? How does it affect you?
  If the question can interfere with something, it can add it to the effect that the place where we grew up can also give birth to beautiful conversation.

If these sentences are allowed to add depth to your first exchanges, be careful not to fall into the “job interview” effect, with a string of questions, together with machine gun cut. After all, you are to know each other, to face the other, not to bring someone to your box, right? Forget others after a picker and conversation starts instead of one or two questions.

The question is not “Friendsoner”?

“This is a real question, that I have been regularly assured: how to not fall in” Friendzone “?” If there is no prepared response, it is at least possible to avoid living in the least blurred area, by revealing its intentions, at least in part. In this case, it is possible to go to more direct questions. Instead, “You like to be in a relationship the most” prefer, if you want to avoid normal “what are you looking at in a relationship?”

If a family is being established, or not to do so, then it may be important for you to ask this question. Fanny Agar advised that it is not necessarily asking such questions from the first appointment, or perhaps in a low frontal manner and rather “at the turn of a conversation, on childhood, family”. According to the specialist in conversation art, there is no bad question. “From the moment it is important for the person, they are all worth being posed”. Everything is played at the moment and the way to bring it. It is dependent on everyone that when his question may be most favorable to ask.