This type of injury affects your couple, without you realizing it
Romantic relationships are often considered as a means of getting love, affection and support. However, for some people, deep emotional wounds from childhood may interfere with the ability to maintain a healthy and stable relationship.
Kaytee Gillis, interviewed by psychiatrist PsychologyTells how these attachment can often create invisible, relaxed relationships that weaken romantic relationships.
Effect of adult attachment injuries
Attachment trauma often finds his roots in childhood, when the child does not benefit from the emotional support required for his emotional development. This deficiency of affection and safety makes a dynamic where the child, who has become an adult, often tries to fill these voids by installing unbalanced relationships. Those who have experienced such trauma have difficulty in having a balanced relationship because they continue to repair non -ghail injuries. This process can lead to a vicious cycle of unstable relationships, without the actual solution of emotional needs.
This unconscious dynamic often results in extreme behaviors, either to avoid the pain of constant abandonment, or to avoid any relationship from fear of removing this grief. In both cases, these people want to fill an emotional zero, without fully informing about it. Thus relationships become a region of conflict, where love and affection are sought without permanent success.
Results on adult romantic relationships
Those who have experienced attachment can take themselves in the cycles to be repeated. One of the most frequent manifestations is a kind of “dependence” in the honeymoon phase in relationships, an intense moment in the beginning, but which always becomes more stable, as soon as it ends with a rupture. It can give the presence of love to love, where the discovery of new feelings assumes the creation of a permanent relationship. By avoiding real intimacy and focusing on the stimulation of novelty, these people condemn the love of themselves without real commitment.
His behavior may reflect his desire to cure this lack of affection experienced in childhood, but also for fear of abandonment. This fear can be so deep that it prevents a relationship from appreciating what it is, thus constantly breaking. But by understanding your feelings and establishing healthy relationships, it is possible to break these devastating patterns by working on yourself, adopting a healing approach.