What makes your relationship with your childhood and your unconscious desires with money
Money is much higher than a simple means of exchange: this world reveals our relationship with our fear, our desires and our education in a certain way. Or do we still have the power to develop?
Clinical psychological and psychoanalysis performed with Mary-Claude François-Logue, allows you to allow you Take stock of your relationship for moneyAre you different from future, worried, bound or question? Your answers can surprise you … and give you a track to adjust your relationship in this posture that punches our lives.
Test:
1. Being “rich”, for you, means:
C. Being competent
A. Be safe from need
B. Pay too many taxes
D. is a human depth
2. Baby, when you get your pocket money:
A. You hurry to put it in your piggy bank
C. You were buying candy
D. You put it aside in the request of Mother’s Day
B. You had no pocket money
3. You consider your credit card:
C. A friend who wants you good
B. You are careful with a trap
A. A tool to use … in moderation
D. A means of payment like someone else
4. Your account is for you:
A. A confident activity
D. a need
B. A bad dream
C. Useless
5. Which bottle do you choose for this chic dinner, where you are invited?
C. A reputed vintage to influence guests
D. This excellent small Shardonnaya with your friends
A. A good bottle, without wastage
B. The cheapest, which will not pay attention to anyone
6. You will dream of a will for your children:
A. A heritage
C. Luck
B. You are against heritage
D. The Joy of Living
7. What is your reaction when you receive administrative mail?
D. Similar to any letter
B. You have the end to exclude it from your vision
A. You open it and treat it quickly
C. You put it on a pile of “to read”
8. Your friends who are very well “successful” in life:
C. You envy them
A. You avoid them
B. You pay them
D. What exactly “successful”?
9. You have no need for this new jeans, but promotion is particularly seductive:
C. You throw yourself on it, a promotion does not miss
A. You quickly calculate if it is not a scam
B. You don’t fall for it, even if it is a good deal
D. If you don’t need it, you go on your way
10. If you recommend giving:
A. Good accounts make good friends
D. Has not bought everything
C. Life is too small to deprive yourself
B. Saves, and you will never need
These options that we make with our money are never trivial. They reflect a vision of the world, inherited from our education, our experiences and our deep insecurity. By analyzing your answers, you can understand why you feel the need to hide, why a simple expense can cause stress, or conversely, why you have so much difficulty in not giving yield for a financial temptation.
This test does not pretend to give a complete truth, but this may be a revelation: to understand your financial profile also to identify which range you limit and search for tracks to get out of your unconscious pattern.
Answer:
Most of A: It is controlled
Measurement on everyone: There is no question of overflowing you. For you, money is not a matter of concern, provided you keep it under control. Yes, you make your accounts- “very often”, you are sometimes criticized, but at least you have no wonder. Yes, you put money on one side, but when you want you to be able to offer what you like (an apartment, travel to the end of the world…). And yes, you count before spending, not for greed but for economy and caution. Providing, appropriate, you are a good manager who aims of safety, know how to deprive yourself if necessary – you support disappointment – and never sails. If it is time to ask for an increase, then you do any other job or new customers, you do. Except for the vicious cycle of debt and dependence. Your goal: To have a cool mind, and if you have children, there is something to transmit them.
Your unconscious system. Perhaps you reproduce the hardness (excessive?) Of your parents. As long as they, on the contrary, have wandered from blazing, expensive, even loans; Then you swear: “Never for me!” And that you remember the child, to tighten the safe environment, by tightening the stock market cords, the child.
Drift to escape. Be careful that the spirit of your economy does not go towards radinals. Even if the financial situation interrupted you, do not attack with fear: keep control, but without being made control freakSometimes know how to erect your internal calculator and maintain your distance with budget management apps. breathe! And don’t forget people around you – who can suffer from your extra hardness. Keep your partner’s wishes in mind, think together. How far is it to deprive yourself? What to make … behind the management of our money, what is a life project.
Most B: It’s painful
It is stronger than you, spending you affect you. Even to pay a salad, buy a baguet or adjust the coffee, if you can pass your hand, you do not deprive yourself. Champion Champion. Yes, it may look ill, yes, it is uncomfortable. But ever since you have seen the smile hearing around you while sharing the bills in the restaurant or with friends at the end of the holidays, then you believe your little “ping” side, it is not easy for the people around you to live. However, your goal is not to submit, to hoard, besides you are not very good. But the fear of disappearance tapped you, whatever your income, you are experiencing yourself, victims of a cruel, unfair system. And you know this.
Your unconscious systemHave you missed during your childhood? Or you have been marked. E, at a time in your life, by forcibly forcibly of a loved one? It may also be that an antiquity of the missing mask is a fear of emotional emptiness, or it is a sign of a difficulty for “retention” please (you). A type of corpse of we does not know what the original defect is.
Drift to escape. Be careful not to close yourself in a system that can make you more and more sad. And run your loved ones. The extreme of such behavior is the figure of stingy, with its untouchable treasures alone, cut from the world and deprived of any link from the world. Find the system, listen to the comments (reprimand) of others. Think about your shortcomings, talk, possibly help find the causes. And train: Forcing yourself to make small expenses, small gifts, for you, to those you love. Search for the comfort of loosening the nose and allowing yourself happiness.
Most of C: It’s unbridled
You have a unique child. Money burns your fingers. Your pocket money melted before Candy Merchant. Later, it was you who were treating everyone in the evening. And even today, you have trouble controlling the flow. What’s good to save it? Let the money sleep in a bank account, while life is so low and there are opportunities to have fun? Intolerant for disappointment, you like to go into debt instead of depriving you. Is this to celebrate good news, because we have just left you, or just for the joy of burning … everything can be an excuse to take out your bank card, even if it means to regret it – your binding purchase often ends on sales in a closet or on the winted – and diver as a crime. Buying joy for you, unfortunately filling in the almanac, which requires the next call.
Your unconscious system. This frantic, even probably very rigorous education, a sense of loneliness, the binding way of spending a narrowing defect … Perhaps your parents were also used, when they took too much, to unbalance their absence by gifts? In fact, money gives you a look of baby omnipotent, which can only be confusion, and opens the door for dissatisfaction.
Drift to escape. From dissatisfaction to drug addiction, there is only one step, quickly taken. Like a drug, expenses can become an irreversible requirement, at that time a jubilant function, but whose side effects can be devastating: shame, guilt, but also, in this case, try not to go into over -indebedness, sadness, depression … dependence. Set the boundaries before shopping, exit with, consult your accounts more often … and if you feel that you lose control, do not hesitate to receive help by a physician.
Most d: it is separated
Your “profile” is the rarest ever: You maintain an overwhelmed link with money, philanthropist neutrality. Neither a source of suffering nor a provider of uneven happiness, it lives in its right place in your life: a tool that is capable of meeting your required requirements, and more, when you get more benefits. Rich in this knowledge, which involves being satisfied with whatever we have, you do not resign or not. Instead, the type of interaction without a salary or increase, without embarrassment, say how much you earn, if necessary, lend, lend, give, get, get … Just, your relationship for money is not biased. You do not help in repairing, compensating for this or proving anything. You know that when you have to spend this, you are happy and spoil others, but buy on sale or low purchase during lean cows. Without feeling injured, frustrated, without jealousy or jealousy with others. In the scale of your values, many things come before the happiness of consumption!
Your unconscious system. There is no doubt that you grew up in an environment where money was not a central or permanent concern. There is no doubt that you have nothing-there is a shortage of money nor emotional security-and you have been sent to other values other than the golden calf.
Question and personal experience of nature too: Life has given you sources of enough confidence and satisfaction so that the field of happening should not be more.
Drift to escape. We would like to say to you: “Above these, don’t change anything!” This is a chance, so much knowledge and freedom in front of this object of so many vague desires. In a society where everything invites “joyful restraint”, you are one of those who can give an example. But do not fall into prosecution. With money, everyone does what he can do, what he is.
A relationship to transfer money
Our relationship for money is rarely rational. He is associated with emotions, childhood memories and cultural effects. Whether you are the type of counting or living every money without seeing your bank statement, there is always an argument behind your choice.
the important thing is Not so much to match an ideal profile What if your financial management makes you really cool. This is aware of your system, you can adjust your relationship with money so that it is conforming to the life you want to lead.