“This is the subject that makes people weak”: Why do we love love stories a lot?
“And so you, how did you meet?” “,” And do you see someone now? “,” Tell me about your date! “,” And at that time, what did he tell you? And what did you answer? »There is no need to say, when it comes to listening to the love stories of others, many of us live in the front lodge. Sometimes swelling, sometimes unique, clumsy or fundamentally romantic, love stories of our loved ones, such as unknown, quickly made us emotional.
In books, fairy tales, romantic comedy, in our loved ones or in our own life, love is everywhere. However, it is not always easy Love our loveEssential for our development, and above, very entertaining, heart stories are very few, as much as they appear.
Universal interest in love: go beyond taboo
If love is everywhere, then the validity of love is more rare. And for a good reason, interested in imaginary love, as real, something to encourage ridicule according to some. One interest that Samiya Basil has not always claimed. Since 2022, he has animated podcast The love gangsEach episode listens to comments on the love story (or not) shared by one of the invited guest listeners. “I realized that this was my favorite subject of conversation. I initially told myself that it was a little clinch, she accepts. This can be seen as very meaningless, but it was the most interested in me. »Get out of conversation on professional career, Love stories have a lot of interest According to him. “This is the subject that makes people weak. They express their hopes, their doubts, they ask questions. And I feel this super touching, ”connects the host of the podcast.
“Love is inseparable from human experience,” said Claire Petin, Clinical Psychological and Couple Physicians. Whether it is imaginary or real, love touches us in a way or another from a young age and throughout our life. “We are therefore a socially loved love, which is transmitted to a socially generation with love and omnipresent of a story on its stories and which does not survive a certainly a certainly, or ‘prohibition’ that does not survive, “She remembers. And these are also these prohibitions that sometimes inspire us to believe that love is our happiness or interest in love Is associated with futility,
A launch story
If we probably have a little bit from the heart to stand out of others and not mix in mass, we also need sometimes To feel a little lessAnd it is worth our perspective to be particularly loved. with The love gangsSamiya Basil understood that in love, 100% original stories are rare. “It seems that you are sometimes alone to experience some things or feel some feelings,” she says. This podcast showed me that I have no original experience. It keeps my own stories in perspective. Similarly, stories directly out of a film that seem very extraordinary to be related to the past, they are not always unique and can end without regrets.
Listening to love stories, talking about yourself, giving advice, but listening to them is not without results for our future love experiences. “With this podcast, I tell myself that we can overcome a lot of things in terms of disappointment of love,” Samiya Basil says. It helps those who have overcome this experience, in which we are or those who are right and who feel less than us alone. And it is necessary for messages that he receives from those who listen to him. In the love stories of others, there is always part of enough secret that allows This savings projection“In every love story, real, imaginary and fantasy, Claire confuses Petin. We do not share the intimacy of lovers, always something that saves us from their history, which can shake our curiosity And can give way to reverence and attraction. Let’s go which does not really matter. “When we talk about the love stories of others, we also talk about ourselves,” said the couple doctor.
Everything about heart stories: airtight or healthy practice?
“If there is ever a aresome dimension, there is nothing uncommon for others to be eager about love life, Claire assures Petin. Listening to some love stories can also be useful and beneficial. Of course , That’s not There is no question of gossip or spreading rumorsBut only to share and listen to stories. Away from being unhealthy, this practice makes it possible to really make social relations and strengthen it, develop sympathy and confidence and promote others and better understanding of itself, linging the psychologist.
“Riding and listening to these stories will allow you to learn from others and improve your social skills … while serving as an entertaining migration from everyday concerns,” she says. It can be catharic to live by proxy, to experience a procession of feelings associated with a love story without related risks. By listening to others and ourselves, we can manage to analyze our stories, identify our style of attachment, understand our relationship -related patterns or even identify our limited beliefs. Essential elements for our present or future love life. “To take interest in love stories of others and try to help them helps to better understand the dynamics in work within mutual relationships, to question our relationship for love and romantic relationships, but useful and useful To feel reliable, who participates in a good self -measure … and makes us good! She concludes.