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Rejection hurts. We’ve all felt the disappointment of being rejected, perhaps an opportunity you didn’t receive or being targeted by a close friend, or being unable to attend an event at a social gathering, and then watching the reactions of your friends through social media.
What is rejection?
Rejection is the process of pushing something or someone away. People may be rejected by your family of origin, a close friend, or even a romantic relationship, and the emotions that result from it are usually difficult.
We are feeling rejected when we’re not considered in, accepted, or a part of. Rejection is the loss of something we wanted or had. Rejection, just like abandonment makes us feel unloved and unsatisfied. Rejection can happen in large quantities or in small amounts in daily life. Although rejection is a normal aspect of life, certain kinds of rejection can make it more challenging to deal with in comparison to other types.
Have you ever experienced any of these experiences from your childhood and teenage rejections?
- Being bullied
- Participating in an organization or school play and not making it.
- There is no one to share lunch with during lunchtime
- As the one who was last to be chosen in the physical edition
- Being not asked to prom or invited to an event
- Not being accepted into the school you’d like
- A partner who you love to betray the relationship or break up
Some children feel rejected at home. This is a further source of suffering. Your parents’ or relatives could include:
- Being told you’re not good enough or being called slurs
- Not being properly cared for, abused, or abandoned
- Being put up to the adoption process (even though it’s done with the intention of love, it could seem like rejection)
- Being ignored
- You’re told that your feelings or opinions aren’t valid or irrelevant
- Your parents are favoring your sibling
- You were sent home due to being “difficult” or “troubled”
- The idea that you’re not talented and that you should abandon your ambitions and desires
- Inability to accept or support your sexual gender or gender identity
Rejection creates false assumptions
In general, the higher the number of times and the younger you were at the time you were disqualified, the more significant it can be.
Young children are just beginning to develop the concept of self in terms of self-worth and self-worth, which makes them particularly vulnerable. Even if no one was able to declare that you were unworthy or unlovable, you might have come to this conclusion after being disqualified because children aren’t equipped with the skills to think and reasoning and the experiences to fully grasp the reasons why you might be dismissed.
Being constantly being rejected as a child could cause a person to believe that you’re not good enough. These false perceptions add to the hurt of being rejected. It can turn into a self-fulfilling saga.
Rejection leads to the building of emotional barriers
Since rejection can be so devastating It is natural to need to guard ourselves against the possibility of being rejected again. This is accomplished by building emotional barriers or avoiding sharing things that make us feel self-conscious, or insecure about, our struggles or hopes. We believe it will remove the pain from rejection as if keeping individuals at a distance would hinder us from being attracted and falling for love or that rejection wouldn’t be as difficult if the person doesn’t have a deep understanding of us.
Another issue is that we begin to fear rejection. We assume that the possibility of rejection will be inevitable and so we rush to turn down the other person prior to they have the chance to turn us down. This, in turn, will help us avoid the grief loss of someone who we love or wanted to know more about. We can feel an illusion of control, and in the privileged in the position, but it won’t make the loss more.
The construction of emotional walls and avoiding rejection of others prematurely isn’t a good way to build fulfilling relationships, and it doesn’t shield us from the hurt of rejection.