“This is a subtle form of psychological violence”: This broad educational method can create trauma in adulthood

As if Repeat with your inner child (Le Brett de’ar version). A study published in 2022 Journal Cyc Central It turned out that “silent treatment” stimulated the brain area that records pain.

So silence is actually a form of communication and it can be especially violent for the child. This explains hidden messages that can cause trauma in adulthood and push victims to cut bridges with their parents.

Silence treatment: trivial away from behavior

“Silent treatment”, this silence in which the parents take a dip to punish the child, will form psychological violence. “When the prisoners are punished, the guards separate them, because the separation is one of the most difficult punishment, which is after physical violence,” Dr. Margaret Paul argues that describe the cruelty of silence. Used in all relationships, this form of punishment is a way to control the other so that he does it required. “This is the return of approval and it can cause great fear in those who are sensitive to it,” the expert continues.

When a parent mastery as an approval as an approval, he gives him a heavy message with the results: to be accepted, he must follow a strict structure, anytime more than the boundaries installed anytime And above the top, it does not grow very quickly. The child then feels “small” in the world of adults that he does not understand. Parents’ silence implies that the error is an unforgivable mistake, thereby learning very little for natural and philanthropic learning.

A conditional mother -father love

With silence, these children understand from an early age that the love of the parents can be conditional and that a little misconception can forcibly immerse them in solitude. Silent treatment, although apparently harmless, is a form of insidious psychological violence. He breaks the fundamental emotional bond and weakens a sense of continuity and security that is offered a parents.

It is disastrous as invisible as a punishment, Dr. Margaret makes Paul alert. Facing this form of emotional control, healthy response will be to accept that no one can change the behavior of others. But for a child, this recurrence is impossible, especially when it comes to their own parents. In an ideal world, these children will learn to treat by agreeing to love and recognition, which has been denied themselves, continuing the expert, who recalls the importance of hearing, understanding and love.